I totally agree with the “don’t be too nice” too because some people just cannot be decent enough to understand not to use a person of such quality and I try harder now to simply ignore certain comments people drop on me..

I used to take the ‘don’t be too nice’ as an offense. But not anymore, cause it’s 100% TRUE.

I agree…it’s one thing to be sociable. It’s another thing to reveal information that can be damaging to you or to your loved ones. And blogs and IM can be artificially intimate, in a way that can make you reveal things inappropriately - I’ve stopped IMing completely, because it is a dangerous time-waster for me. ;-)

And you are correct - you got married because you wanted to spend your life with that special someone. Ergo, that person should be the first person you turn to to solve problems. If you have good friends in real life, they are the distant second choice in helping you solve problems. And if, God forbid, the problem is with your spouse, it’s always dangerous to talk to ANYONE about it other than your spouse. Certainly, it must be an exceedingly-good friend in real life who can help you with such things, if you cannot resolve it with your spouse. But electronic friends are never to be trusted with such information, because it is not a “real” relationship. ;-)

I’m sorry you got burned! But you learned, and that’s good.

I don’t think the title should be “muddled thoughts” cuz they’re not really muddled.

I realized all of the above at some point over the last few years, some more recently than others, but the bottom line is that I feel like I am more mature and able to handle what life throws at me.

oh and PS, I LOVE what you wrote abotu revealing things about your “personal” life after marriage (”your personal life would happen to involve two.. and it’s so unfair to consider it as yours only.”)… that is SOOOO true!

I hope you didn’t have to learn any of this the hard way :)

Marvin.. Yeah well it gets hard if you’ve been used to have your life as an open book and share everything and anything.. I deactivated my facebook account for that particular reason, and I was thinking to start blogging anonymously to avoid that same issue.

Family should be the good distant choice to help solving problems ONLY IF things get out of control, but never friends. As for me I don’t have any problems with electronic friends cause I don’t have any.. :) And If Im super careful with real friends so imagine how stupid it would be to consider electronic ones!!

tinkerbella .. thanks :) ummm i guess it doesn’t really matter if it was hard or easy, the important thing is where I am now compared to where I was ;)

Yes indeed, that’s why I blog anonymously too. People who know me already know who I am, and no one else needs to. I have nothing particularly dangerous to say, but there’s no point in taking a risk. ;-)

yeah no point in taking a risk. I think Im far away from being anonymous.. so many readers know me that it really annoys me. I don’t get to write whatever I want, it makes it harder to write my inner thoughts and feelings.