Jordanian couples living in Amman

11

Jordanian couples living abroad

19

* Couples- taken from my Facebook list with the avoidance of double counting.

* Couples = married/ or engaged

The first question that crosses my mind when I get a friend request from a friend that I haven’t seen in a while would be: where are you living, still in Amman?! Maybe It’s part of me wanting to know who shares the same experience.. etc, or how it is that life made us take different paths, and live in different parts of the world.. and it’s really shocking the amount of people whom I know and who no longer live in Amman!

I often get confused when it comes to what people say and consider as a joke. Some of those jokes I find extremely unacceptable, especially when there’s a hidden meaning behind them. I learned it the hard way, I will REFUSE and will never let anyone interfere with my personal life. I will never ever think that revealing what’s personal help in solving problems, cause after marriage your personal life would happen to involve two.. and it’s so unfair to consider it as yours only. I will not allow anyone to cross the lines, and I would fight anyone with ill intentions, causing troubles even without intending to.

It’s just amazing all the levels of maturity that develop after marriage, and it’s astonishing the strong feelings of protection that you get to hold for your little kingdom. There should always be this unbreakable fence around it, and if you let anyone in even if only once, others would also follow, and this will make things way out of control.. what started with a mistake will end up in a tragedy.

I learned that you can say things to the wrong people.. you can hear things that can affect you for quite a long time from the wrong people too.. and when it gets tough you’d find it hard to differentiate between a friend with a good intention but lacks the skill to express, hence gets misunderstood.. and a bad friend hidden carefully behind a colorful mask. You can do many things that might seem vague to others, and this all shouldn’t really hold you back.. cause it would all happen for the one and only reason.. keeping the ship moving smoothly away from any destroying waves.

I learned that it’s great to be sociable, but it’s not too great to be too nice. That it is in your hands to make things work or walk out on them. That you need to open up and be honest with yourself before looking for answers from anywhere or anyone else.. and that patience, faith, and confidence can be the key to almost all closed doors and can get you out of everything including the unthinkable.

This is the topic that everyone talked and wrote about at least once, if not more. It is an interesting topic, and I personally can’t skip a post that touches any aspect of it.

But I sometimes wonder, how come we always try to analyze it.. in an attempt to come up with advices, solutions, or just write down our thoughts and share what we think we know .. talk out of experience or just for the sake of talking ..when deep inside we all believe it’s a subject that doesn’t really need so much thinking. Each and every relationship is different.. you just can’t compare or give advices based on what you have been through.. simply because that was another thing.. each relationship has different circumstances, and conditions that are related and linked to that certain one in particular.

Some people say we have learned lessons from what we have been through, but I think this should not be the case.. it happens that what is deep inside lives with you.. grows with you.. and you can’t be thinking of what you are currently living based on what you have learned. You don’t need to do that.. things that happened were history, that was past and you can’t drag it to the present! It’s a buried chapter.. and most probably they won’t happen again. You can’t live every minute expecting the worst… and you can’t let fears control you.

This is why I would always say that relationships are not a topic to analyze .. you can’t feel confident enough or in the right position to give advices regarding what or how should relationships be. It is something that each and everyone should experience on his own.. live.. and keep everyone out of it! In most disagreements between couples, when people get involved it might get worse not better. Unfortunately, there are many people out there (they might even be relatives or close friends) who don’t realize how sensitive things can get or be. A sentence or a simple word that is said without deep thinking might add fuel to the fire..

Relationships can be extremely complicated, this is why I learned that if there are problems between two partners.. and if i don’t have anything positive to say then it’s better not to say a thing. No one really knows what happens inside the house but the people who live in it.. so regardless of all that is said and shared, there will always be some issues that only the two really know.

It is a topic I personally enjoy.. It is more like a mystery.. no matter how far you think you reach or how wise you think you are, you’d be surprised to learn that there is still more to know and this is only the beginning..

A small advice, you will never get to that level.. no matter how much you try! so will you just give up and be yourself, and stop being a copy cat for a change. It’s funny how some people spend their whole life tying to be someone else, when all they get is one fall after another..

Stop looking for what others have, and just enjoy being you. If it’s the ‘you’ who you want to change, and you’re not fully satisfied with who you are then you have a serious problem, cause nothing will change the reality.. Im enjoying the imitation, it gives me more pleasure to know that you still have that kind of empty life and that same poor pathetic nature. A ‘wanna be’ follower will get you to no where.. look for your real identity and maybe one day- who knows- you’ll probably get the peace of mind you’re still, and will always be looking for.

the best way to deal with arrogance, is simply to save your time on something that’s of more importance and to just ignore!

The more attention you’re given, the bigger fool you’re making of yourself… maybe ignorance would fix your big, shallow, empty head.